Wednesday, September 30, 2009

A Game we shouldn't play!

I am so surrounded right now with a very clear message about comparing.

Just Don’t Do It!

Friends I just have to ask:

Why in the world do we even play a game that only ends up in a no win situation?

For if we compare ourselves to someone else, what are we truly seeking out?

Do we need someone else to make us feel better about ourselves?

And do we truly need that feeling of insecurity and doubts when we walk away from a comparison moment, feeling less than.

One thing Jesus didn’t do…was compare Himself to anyone other than His Father.

So why do we?
Make a careful exploration of who you are and the work you have been given, and then sink yourself into that. Don't be impressed with yourself. Don't compare yourself with others. Each of you must take responsibility for doing the creative best you can with your own life. Galatians 6:4 (The Message)
We have over the past few weeks visited the foundation our Creator has laid in regards to Sex. A most purposeful and beautiful foundation. One that when truly lived out in its design is so amazing!

A foundation that finds itself within the walls of marriage. Marriage takes work! Go back and read the verse above, "Make a careful exploration of who you are and the work you have been given," Your marriage, the one between you and your spouse.

Friends some of the best advice I have been given over the years that I pull out often…

"Spend your time working on improving yourself, then you won’t have time to compare with others, critique others or judge others"

May we be encouraged to quit wasting time watching movies and comparing ourselves to a Hollywood created version of what Sex should look like!
May we instead be encouraged to reach out and grab our spouse’s hand, and invite God to reveal to us the beauty He has for us. And friends brace yourselves, everything He creates will take your breathe away!

Friday, September 25, 2009

Seeking stability on Sex

Dear Father God,

Thank You for every moment of this series on Sex. Thank You for every person that has come to experience You, come to seek You, come to be loved on by You. I praise You for freedom that is being lived out because of Your grace. A grace that doesn't stop and doesn't expire. I praise You for a grace that covers every part of our relationship with You. Thank You for 'putting everything under Your feet. In putting everything under You, You left nothing that is not subject to You. Yet at present we do not see everything subject to You.' (Hebrews 2:8) May I know in this very moment that Your will on earth is not complete, and that You have more to do. May I continue to trust, and believe that You and You alone have the power to bring it to be! May we, the ones created in Your very image truly seek a relationship with You, knowing it is the very purpose we were created. And in relationship with You we will experience the beauty of design for every area of our lives, including Sex.

We love You Lord! Amen

**Join us next as we talk about comparing our Sex lives!

Tuesday, September 22, 2009

What to tell the boys about Sex?

Dear Boys,

I am here because as I have been journeying through this series on Sex on the blog, it has been laid upon my heart what would I say to you boys? How would I answer questions? Am I prepared? Do I have the right answers? This letter is from my heart to yours!

I am so thankful for the gift that each one of you are, handcrafted masterpieces by a God who only does amazing work. To live life with you is such a joy, for there are moments in each day that I stand completely amazed, soaking in just how great God is…that two very unique and different little guys exist on purpose and display part of His image.

In all of my momma heart I desire to be obedient to the very word and command of God:

Teach your children
right from wrong,
and when they are grown
they will still do right.
Proverbs 22:6 (CEV)

Boys from the day you were born I have felt completely incapable, lost, and weak in this role as your momma. There have been moments at Jesus feet where I have sat completely exhausted in tears crying out for help. And I as I mature, which just so beautifully coincides with you getting older, God in all His loving grace reminds me…I don’t have what it takes to be your momma…and where He wants me is at His feet 100% dependent on Him. The beauty of His design!

It is my hearts desire that you fall so in love with your Creator so that when life comes you are in tune with His voice, and you know its His hand that will lead you! For to be filled with His love and grace to overflowing so that when you face any of life’s situations that you will love and respect others, and love and respect yourselves.

I pray for a beautiful foundation of communication to be laid, not by me, but by a God who knows what needs to be said and when to say it. For there is such power, grace and love in what is said and what is not said.

For my faith is in Him, and His way. For I believe He loves us to a point of complete surrender in Him. And it is my desire that this momma heart of mine takes that huge leap of faith and truly lives freely.

Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails. 1Cor 13:4-8 (NIV)

May I follow a God who knows what He is doing, may I remain teachable so I can direct you both to His heart!
Direct your children onto the right path,and when they are older, they will not leave it. Proverbs 22:6 (NLT)

I love you boys!

On purpose,

Friday, September 18, 2009

What Sex is NOT!

Welcome to the blog today…as I have read many articles and done some research, homework and lived my life I have come to realize that sometimes things have to be described by what they are NOT.

Today is such a day on the blog!

If we are NOT honoring God with our lives then plain and simple we are dishonoring Him.

This includes all areas of our lives. This includes our Sex lives. As we approach this point today I want to again be bold and say NO one gets a free pass on today’s subject…there is a spot for everyone to sit down and take this in.

Again I will state we are either honoring God with our Sex lives or we are dishonoring Him.

I know that I might lose some of the crowd here as it would appear that I am stepping on toes…friends, please know that is NOT my heart. My heart is so full of grace and love and it knows first hand what it feels like to dance in field of grace with a Creator who truly sets us free…and I just desire to share that!

Gods instructions for our Sex lives are not a list of prohibitions. Rather they are instructions for us to live free in Him, free in the design that He created us to be in.

Free to honor Him and live life fully.

And to do that we need to know what Sex is NOT:

Sex is not a weapon.

There is no honoring God by using sex in a manipulating, forceful and hurtful way!

Sex is not to used as a tool.

God is NOT honored by the money that is exchanged in regards to the purity of lives that are being sold each day.

Sex is not self serving.

God is honored when we think of others before we think of ourselves.

Sex is not about power.

Power displayed by the wrong person for the wrong reason does not honor God.

Sex is not about having control.

God is honored when there is mutual agreement and mutual involvement.
May we truly embrace what Sex is. Sex is the created union, designed, and hand crafted by a God who wants to gift His people with the pure relationship of fulfillment within the marriage covenant!

Tuesday, September 15, 2009

Pure it possible?

Welcome to the blog today! Thank you for visiting. Today I have a lot of questions, ever have those days?

We are in the middle of a series on Sex so if this is your first visit...please go back and read through a few of the previous posts if you feel you need some foundation for this topic!

Let's get started with the questions!

**What is pure?

Everything is pure to those whose hearts are pure. But nothing is pure to those who are corrupt and unbelieving, because their minds and consciences are corrupted. Titus 1:15 (NLT)

Who can bring what is pure from the impure? No one! Job 14:4

**Where does purity come from?

**Can you find purity in our world today?

**Is purity something our society encourages?

It wasn't so long ago that you were mired in that old stagnant life of sin. You let the world, which doesn't know the first thing about living, tell you how to live. You filled your lungs with polluted unbelief, and then exhaled disobedience. We all did it, all of us doing what we felt like doing, when we felt like doing it, all of us in the same boat. It's a wonder God didn't lose his temper and do away with the whole lot of us. Instead, immense in mercy and with an incredible love, he embraced us. He took our sin-dead lives and made us alive in Christ. He did all this on his own, with no help from us! Then he picked us up and set us down in highest heaven in company with Jesus, our Messiah. Ephesians 2:1-6 (The Message) (emphasis mine)

Friends when I read this verse and get to the last few words (the ones I put in bold) my heart seriously starts to beat faster!

You see for our Creator to do just this, to pick us up and put us right next to Jesus...means one thing and one thing only...that HE has made us pure! Yep...sure thing! The way this works is that Jesus Himself is completely 100% pure...perfect...without errors...and to be in His presence we must be made the same.

To find purity we must be seated right next to our Jesus! To see purity we must look to our Jesus. To dwell on all things pure we must be submerged in the purity of relationship with Jesus. To change an unpure past we must allow a pure God to change our hearts.

Create in me a pure heart, God, and make my spirit right again. Psalm 51:10 (NCV)

Who can bring what is pure from the impure? No one! Job 14:4

So when Job ask this question above and then answers in two simple words..."No one!" He is so right my friends...we can't bring purity to ourselves.

We must come and seek the One source of purity and allow Him to change us from the inside out!

God's readiness to give and forgive is now public. Salvation's available for everyone! We're being shown how to turn our backs on a godless, indulgent life, and how to take on a God-filled, God-honoring life. This new life is starting right now, and is whetting our appetites for the glorious day when our great God and Savior, Jesus Christ, appears. He offered himself as a sacrifice to free us from a dark, rebellious life into this good, pure life, making us a people he can be proud of, energetic in goodness. Titus 2:11-14 (The Message) (empahsis mine)

More than anything I desire to live my life on purpose, and I believe that its a life of purity. That in all the things I say, and do come from a pure heart, not one I can create, but one that I allow Him to change. One that I all ow Him to clean and make pure.

Friends Sex is very important to our God.

Pure Sex is very important to our God.

Will you join me today in seeking how this needs to affect us? Is there something in our minds, and or hearts that is keeping Sex from being pure for us?

Do you allow an impure world to corrupt something God created purely on purpose?

Do you support Sex in impure ways? Tv shows? Music? Books we read?

Do you walk each day shackled in guilt from a past moment, mistake or relationship?

Do you allow the past to hold you in restraint from truly experience the pure Sex God desires for you to experience in our marriage right now?

Do you believe a lie that Sex is not beautiful?

Are you not experiencing the pure beauty of Sex?

Do you and your spouse communicate about Sex?

Please join me today in seeking purity.

Finally, my friends, keep your minds on whatever is true, pure, right, holy, friendly, and proper. Don't ever stop thinking about what is truly worthwhile and worthy of praise. Phil 4:8 (CEV)

May we know that God is setting many of His children free during this series. Free from their past, free in a relationship with Him. Free to enjoy the life He has created for them!

Friday, September 11, 2009

Sex- The Past, Present and Future

Now I am just a girl! One who so does not have it all together at all times…ask the ‘regulars’ who visit the blog often…better yet ask my family!!! So I thank you for your patience, your encouragement and most of all your prayers!

I am firm believer in being bold when being bold means standing up and shining the light on a great and awesome God! The main purpose of this series on Sex is to do just that!

To come into the light and see all of what God intended Sex to be. To grasp His purpose, beauty in design, we must come into His presence, we must seek His face.
Can we fully seek His face if we are still in the dark? What keeps us from seeking Him?

Is it something in our past holding us captive?






Is it something in the present that won’t let us step towards Him?




As I have prayed and prepared over this series God has oh so gently whispered that not everyone is ready for this.

Not everyone is ready.

There are people yelling on the other side of this screen…

"but you don’t know what has happened to me!"

"but you don’t know where I have been!"

"but you don’t know what I have done!"

"but you don’t know what I can’t stop doing!"

But God does!

Can I be bold today and say;

It’s NOT where you are, but where He is!

He is standing right there arms wide open to hold you and to take this all away.

Friends that’s the beauty of grace.

Now that we know what we have—Jesus, this great High Priest with ready access to God—let's not let it slip through our fingers. We don't have a priest who is out of touch with our reality. He's been through weakness and testing, experienced it all—all but the sin. So let's walk right up to him and get what he is so ready to give. Take the mercy, accept the help. Hebrews 4:14-16 (The Message)

May you know today that He knows you and He loves and adores you.

May you allow your Creator to heal the past, love you in the present, and secure your future in Him!
Friends please take a moment to listen to this song, listen to Your Creator whisper to your heart!
He loves you!

May you seek Him and seek the beauty of grace today!

Wednesday, September 9, 2009

I'm tired, I have a headache...and I feel blah!

****Warning please only continue reading if you have a sense of humor!****

So here we are in the middle of a series on Sex on the blog and its Wednesday night and this girl is tired. She was away all weekend with her family on the coast...had a total blast...but came home to a mountain of dirty laundry..everything got dirty and wet...that's what happens when you mix the wet coast with boys! We all seemed to get stuffed up sinuses, which are giving me a big headache...FUN after vacation treat! Oh and I spoke to a group of most amazing mommies this morning which drained me of all creative thoughts...I am 2 days behind on getting chores and know...

So I come tonight to say...

I'm tired

I have a headache

And I feel blah

So the next post for the Sex series will be coming soon!

Thank you so much for loving on The Engineer and me for our Anniversary~

May you rest in Him...I am off to do it myself!

Friday, September 4, 2009

A lot can happen in 10 years!

Graduating college

Marrying your best friend

Moving to a new state

Starting our careers

Buying our first house

Inheriting llamas

Making lots of great friends

Finding a church home

Fixing up our first house

Bringing home our baby girl Miss Ellie Mae

Holding each others hands tight when life happened


Bringing home our first baby boy

Moving to a new city

Buying our second new home and waiting for it to be built

Making new friends

Finding a new church

Bringing home our second baby boy ONLY 16 months later!

Starting a church plant

Changing jobs which meant moving to a new city

Buying our third home

Finding a new church

Making new friends

Receiving a pilots license and starting Living My Life on Purpose

Raising two amazing little boys

Sending our first off to kindergarten

And here we are on Friday September 4th celebrating 10 years of marriage!

Please know deep in your heart Engineer I am madly in love with you and feel more than honored to stand beside you in this life...I have been more than blessed and look forward to sharing many more years with you!

Tuesday, September 1, 2009

Sex...whose idea is it anyway?

What if God’s people started talking about sex?

"God has given us a grand gift in our sexual communion, and we sell it short.
Christians rarely discuss what sex really is or why God created and encourages it. Remember the last time you heard a sermon on sexuality? Neither do I. What a shame!"
(What Does God Know About Sex?: He has a lot to say about the subject. by Glenn T. Stanton)
What if His people helped bring into the light what the enemy wants to keep in the secret and in the dark?
"Google reports that its two most popular search terms are God and sex. Obviously a great many people around the globe have lots of questions about these two topics. How many of us, though, think these two words represent polar opposites, with the pure-of-heart searching one topic and the more "fleshly" looking for the other? I suggest that if we don't see these two terms as closely connected, we don't know very much about either of them. It's long been considered impolite to discuss sex in good company, which is understandable with something so intimate. But the media talk about sex all day long, spewing deception and heartache. Before we choose to stay silent, Christians must remember that sex is God's idea — and He has much to say about it." (What Does God Know About Sex?: He has a lot to say about the subject.
by Glenn T. Stanton )

Sex…whose idea was it anyway?

Then God said, "Let us make man in our image, in our likeness, and let them rule over the fish of the sea and the birds of the air, over the livestock, over all the earth, and over all the creatures that move on the ground." So God created man in his own image, in the image of God he created him; male and female he created them. God blessed them and said to them, "Be fruitful and increase in number; fill the earth and subdue it. Rule over the fish of the sea and the birds of the air and over every living creature that moves on the ground." Genesis 1:26-28

We learn from the above passage that God created one man and one woman and then encouraged them to ‘be fruitful’ and to multiply.

It is VERY clear…directly from the mouth of God…that He gave the gift of sex on purpose…the purpose of taking part in creating of life.

For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and they will become one flesh. Genesis 2:24

God’s intended purpose with sex is to be between one man and woman, specifically inside the marriage relationship. God created sex for intimate oneness and a knowledge between a husband and wife that brings depth to the relationship.

A depth that cannot, will not and does not take place in one night stands, sex outside of marriage, pornography, or affairs.

So what in the world is going on down here?

How did we get so far off track?

"'Turn back, fickle Israel. I'm not just hanging back to punish you. I'm committed in love to you. My anger doesn't seethe nonstop. Just admit your guilt. Admit your God-defiance. Admit to your promiscuous life with casual partners, pulling strangers into the sex-and-religion groves While turning a deaf ear to me.'" God's Decree. "Come back, wandering children!" God's Decree. "I, yes I, am your true husband. I'll pick you out one by one— This one from the city, these two from the country— and bring you to Zion. I'll give you good shepherd-rulers who rule my way, who rule you with intelligence and wisdom. Jeremiah 3:12 (The Message)
Inside the marriage relationship God wants us to experience sex and the pleasure, joy, passion and comfort it can and will bring. He has gifted us with an entire book in the Bible, Song of Songs, in which He shares these very important aspects of sex.

I am my lover's and my lover is mine; he browses among the lilies. Song of Songs 6:3
Do we truly believe that sex can be good?
God saw all that He had made, and it was very good. Genesis 1:31
God the Creator of all, the very One who put His hand to everything and everyone we see here on earth, is very passionate about us! He wants to interact with us. He desires to be in relationship with us! He desires to bless us beyond our imagination.
The nature of God:
"If we hope to offer a redeemed view of sexuality to a hurting world, we must begin by understanding that God is inherently loving and relational — and created us to be this way, too." (What Does God Know About Sex?: He has a lot to say about the subject. by Glenn T. Stanton)

Can we dare to believe that God loves us so much?

Can we dare to step out in faith and believe there is beauty in His design?

God we come and sit before You. We ask You to open our minds and hearts, please help us allow You speak to us. To touch our hearts in a way only You can. May we surrender to You all of our past, present and future ideas and truly grab onto Your idea. May we allow You to love us through this process, knowing that You have great things for us! We love You Lord-Amen
There's more to sex than mere skin on skin. Sex is as much spiritual mystery as physical fact. As written in Scripture, "The two become one." Since we want to become spiritually one with the Master, we must not pursue the kind of sex that avoids commitment and intimacy, leaving us more lonely than ever—the kind of sex that can never "become one." There is a sense in which sexual sins are different from all others. In sexual sin we violate the sacredness of our own bodies, these bodies that were made for God-given and God-modeled love, for "becoming one" with another. Or didn't you realize that your body is a sacred place, the place of the Holy Spirit? Don't you see that you can't live however you please, squandering what God paid such a high price for? The physical part of you is not some piece of property belonging to the spiritual part of you. God owns the whole works. So let people see God in and through your body. 1 Corinthians 6:16 (The Message)