Friday, September 18, 2009

What Sex is NOT!

Welcome to the blog today…as I have read many articles and done some research, homework and lived my life I have come to realize that sometimes things have to be described by what they are NOT.

Today is such a day on the blog!

If we are NOT honoring God with our lives then plain and simple we are dishonoring Him.

This includes all areas of our lives. This includes our Sex lives. As we approach this point today I want to again be bold and say NO one gets a free pass on today’s subject…there is a spot for everyone to sit down and take this in.

Again I will state we are either honoring God with our Sex lives or we are dishonoring Him.

I know that I might lose some of the crowd here as it would appear that I am stepping on toes…friends, please know that is NOT my heart. My heart is so full of grace and love and it knows first hand what it feels like to dance in field of grace with a Creator who truly sets us free…and I just desire to share that!

Gods instructions for our Sex lives are not a list of prohibitions. Rather they are instructions for us to live free in Him, free in the design that He created us to be in.

Free to honor Him and live life fully.

And to do that we need to know what Sex is NOT:

Sex is not a weapon.

There is no honoring God by using sex in a manipulating, forceful and hurtful way!

Sex is not to used as a tool.

God is NOT honored by the money that is exchanged in regards to the purity of lives that are being sold each day.

Sex is not self serving.

God is honored when we think of others before we think of ourselves.

Sex is not about power.

Power displayed by the wrong person for the wrong reason does not honor God.

Sex is not about having control.

God is honored when there is mutual agreement and mutual involvement.
May we truly embrace what Sex is. Sex is the created union, designed, and hand crafted by a God who wants to gift His people with the pure relationship of fulfillment within the marriage covenant!


~*~KIMBERLY~*~ said...

Thank You Father for showing me Your grace.

Runner Mom said...

Amen! It amazed me that some will use this gift from God as a tool to "get back" at their husband! Thanks so much for being faithful to write these posts!


My ADHD Me said...

Thank you for hitting on a subject that can be difficult for so many.

This has been very interesting and I do believe that you are helping many more than you even know.

Lori said...

God loves us so much that He arranged for us to have a life partner here on Earth. The best love is a faithful love, the kind that cannot be seduced by power and wealth. It unashamedly praises monogamous love, the love of one woman and one man. God has created us to be united with one man. He hand crafted us this way-he offered us the ability to enjoy this pure relationship with our husband!

How is do we get to that point of having a "pure relationship?" It's a never ending journey!--- Knowing our husband. Seeking, daily to know him better. Praying for this. Less of us & more of our husband. His needs before our own. Choosing to ask God every morning how we can be a blessing to him each day. To never stop from seeking to make the relationship stronger.

In the same way the God desires us to be with one man, He desires that He be our One and Only God.

Thank you Nichole!

Lori - AZ

Cindy said...

I must get caught up on this series. Can you believe our Pastor is speaking about sex in church next week - God does have lots to say.

I've been away for awhile.

Praying all is well.

Here is my new blog address:

Blessings, Cindy

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Irritable Mother said...

And, akin to your last post, sex is NOT dirty or bad.
Been thinking about my growing up years. The ONLY thing my mother ever said to me about sex (sex before marriage, but she NEVER talked about it within the context of marriage) was that I shouldn't do it because "nice girls don't do it."
And I have to believe that is part of the reason I have had the attitude that sex needs to be hidden, that there is an element of "badness" to it.
Sure, there is the junk that our culture throws at it, but I am coming to believe that growing up with the thought "nice girls don't do it" had a negative influence on my understanding of sex - and its GOODNESS in the context of marriage.
Thanks again for doing this series and spurring these thoughts in me. I am thinking about how I can be proactive in teaching my daughter that sex in marriage is a very good thing.

elaine @ peace for the journey said...

All of those "nots" regarding sex have been my portion at one time or another. It's been a difficult journey of trust in my marriage for many reasons, but we have made great strides in this area.

Thanks for being bold and speaking your heart. I appreciate your candor and God's truth via your pen. Keep to it.


Lisa Buffaloe said...

Love this post. I love the sweet, guilt-free, pure relationship I can have with my husband. Even someone with my past is given this precious God-given gift!